Spotlight Friday: growing up

I heard this song last week in the radio, and it keeps playing in my head. Maybe you have heard it already. I really like the lyrics of this one.

They say boys don’t cry
But your daddy shed a lot of tears
They say I should be a strong man
But baby, I’m still filled with fear
Sometimes I don’t know who I am
Sometimes I question why I’m here
I just wanna be a good dad
Will I be? I have no idea
They say girls shouldn’t be tough
And moms should raise their kids at home
But baby, I know that that isn’t true
Cause your momma’s the toughest person I know
I wanna raise you to be like her
And watch you show the world how to do it on your own
I’m still tryna figure out who I am
I don’t wanna mess this up or do this wrong
I’m gonna be there for your first breath
I don’t know if I’ll be there for your first step
I can promise you that I’ll try to work less
But the tour’s routed, and I got this album
Put in so many hours, and I just want the outcome
To be something that I can look back and I can be proud of
Don’t wanna be a dad that’s living in FaceTime
But I’ve got a world to sing to and you at the same time
I won’t spoil you, you can trust that
For your sweet 16, you get a bus pass
Had your heart broken? Been there, done that
I love you and I can’t give you enough of that
Get back to community that raised you up
Read Langston Hughes, I suggest “A Raisin in the Sun”
Listen to Sam Cooke, a change gon’ come
You put the work in, don’t worry about the praise, my love
Don’t try to change the world, find something that you love
And do it every day
Do that for the rest of your life
And eventually, the world will change

I’ll be patient, one more month
You’ll wrap your fingers round my thumb
Times are changing, I know, but who am I if
I’m the person you become
If I’m still growing up, up, up, up
If I’m still growing up, up, up, up
I’m still growing up

I recommend that you read The Alchemist
Listen to your teachers, but cheat in calculus
Tell the truth, regardless of the consequence
And every day, give your momma a compliment
Take your girl to the prom
But don’t get too drunk hanging out the limo
Slow dance with your woman in your arms
Sneak her in after but boy, you better tiptoe
Don’t wake your mom up, do yoga, learn ’bout karma
Find God, but leave the dogma
The quickest way to happiness? Learning to be selfless
Ask more questions, talk about yourself less
Study David Bowie, James Bowen and 2Pac
Watch the sun set with best friends from a rooftop
Wear a helmet, don’t be stupid
Jaywalk, but look before you do it
If it snows, go outside, build a jump, get some help
Get a sled, thrash the hill with your friends till it melts
Go to festivals, camp, fall in love and dance
You’re only young once, my loved one, this is your chance
Take risks, cause life moves so fast
You’re only young once, my loved one, this is your chance

I’ll be patient, one more month
You’ll wrap your fingers round my thumb
Times are changing, I know, but who am I if
I’m the person you become
If I’m still growing up, up, up, up
If I’m still growing up, up, up, up
I’m still growing up

I’ll be patient, one more month
You’ll wrap your fingers round my thumb
Times are changing, I know, but who am I if
I’m the person you become
If I’m still growing up, up, up, up
If I’m still growing up, up, up, up
I’m still growing up

“Growing up” by Macklemore

This song made me reflect on my job I did so far with my kids. Am I doing the right things? Did I make the right decisions? Did I teach them the right things? Are they independent enough? Did I teach them to form their own opinion and not run with the mass? So many questions, so many variables.

I guess I will see later down the road. It is such a fine line.

I am hoping that my love, my respect and my treating other people, our spending time together and discussions will be enough to have them ready for their world. Because my world will not be theirs.

There is so many new things to learn every day, for me. So I hope I taught them to keep their eyes open and their minds willing to learn. Did they learn to hear the quiet ones?

Patience is one of the things I learned with parenthood. You have to have tons of it. But boy do my kids have to have patience with me as well, as I am learning how to be the best I can for them.

It is a give and take. And the reward? Something you can’t pay with money. The hugs, the kisses, the hours of cuddling, and deep conversations. And those big loving eyes and sweet voices when they tell you: “I love you Mama!”


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INSPIRATIONAL QUOTE CARD by tornpaperco

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Wooden Growth Chart Ruler
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Peter Pan inspired Never say goodbye…never forget – hand stamped Necklace
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Kids poster “When I grow up I want to be” . . . for boys
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Thank you for raising the man of my dreams necklace mother in law stainless steel heart 1.25 inch hand stamped Mother in law gift by cmkreations

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Growing Up-Handmade Mixed Media Collage
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When I Grow Up (Girl) Birds in a Tree (Tweet) Embroidered Quilt Block Square 5×7
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inspiration word art – Nursery Print – Typgraphy by snewberrydesigns

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Bamboo Coral & Sterling Silver Heart Necklace by GlitterRT

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Enjoy the journey of parenthood. These moments will only happen once, treasure those moments. If you blink you might miss something. I am so happy that I was blessed with the opportunity to take this journey with my two lovely bundles of joy, and sometimes teenage drama.

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