At the moment the life in this household is an emotional roller coaster. There is hubby who is in the midst of changing work places. Happy about leaving the one, anxious about what awaits him in the other. So many mixed feelings about leaving. So many emotions bundled up and no way to find their way out to find relieve. Hubby was never big in expressing his feelings, his emotions, his fears. It is like pulling teeth with him, to find out what is occupying his mind and at what stage of the process he is.
Then we have teenager that is so full of emotions that she doesn’t know which ones to channel first, lashes out at her little sister or us, because she is frustrated with a situation or confusing feelings. Then the next minute she is like a snail and retreats into her room and will not be seen for a while, and wants to be left alone.
Then there is our little one, a very sensitive little soul. That takes everything to heart. This School year we had quite a few stay at home days because of emotional anxiety. Like her Dad she doesn’t like talking about her own feelings and fears. She does express them through writing and drawing. Often it is frustrating for me to see that something is occupying her mind and she doesn’t want to share, to get it off her chest. But she let’s you know that something is off, I just feel it is not the right way and it doesn’t help her find a solution. She just “deals” with it by tucking it away.
I know everyone deals with their emotions differently. I am one of those people that have to get it off my chest immediately. Might not be the right way either, because then often things are said out of frustration and anger. Hearing myself talking about what is weighing on my heart often reveals the solution. Thankfully I have a wonderful friend next door, that let’s me spill my sorrow and worries without telling me what I need to do. That is exactly what I need. That is what I learned many years ago in my Psychology class, let someone talk and find their own solution. Don’t tell them what they need to do.
This is what I have been trying to do with my kids. What is not very easy, because as a Mom you want them to make the “best” decisions, or you think is the best one. You want them to get over their hurt faster. But they have to take that path and learn how to get to that place where they can be comfortable to make the choice that fits for them.
Just the other day I apologized to my oldest for trying to be pushy and telling her how she should decide. I told her that I had to learn to let go and trust in her that she will make the right choices. That I understand that it’s her first time growing up and that she doesn’t know how to get there and that there will be steps taken in the “wrong” direction. So I asked her if she could be patient with me while I learn how to “let her go” and grow up. This is a first time for me as well.
As you can see there is a lot of emotional stuff going on right now and sometimes it is overwhelming and draining. At the same time I love those moments because it brings us closer together. We get to know each other deeper. It forms a whole new family bond.
I am sure we are not always handling it the “right” way, but we are trying and that is just as important.But because everyone handles their stress differently, there is a different approach for them, that just makes it so much more emotional for me. I like to know that everyone in this house is happy, balanced and feels safe. Because I think it is equal important to be emotionally well as well as your body. One can’t function without the other.
My own problem is that I like to get to the bottom of things, often get a little bit to philosophical for my family. I often drive my hubby crazy with that. But that’s just the way I am “made”.
while I was putting this Zibbet treasury together this song popped in my head. I loved this song from the first time I saw it in the movie Flashdance.
Music is a big part of how I express and work through me feelings.
Here is the Etsy Treasury that I created:
The other music that came to mind was a song from R. Kelly “I believe I can fly”
I hope that was not too much emotions and feelings going on for you.
But as my oldest tells my lately “I am in my feelings” so that means for me to leave her alone.
I wish you a wonderful meaningful day!